A Parent’s Prayer

This is a prayer I like to pray often as it says just what I want to say:

Dear Lord, make me a better parent. Teach me to understand my children, to listen patiently to what they have to say, and to answer all their questions kindly. Keep me from interrupting them or contradicting them. Make me as courteous to them as I would have them be to me. Forbid that I should ever laugh at their mistakes, or resort to shame or ridicule when they displease me. May I never punish them for my own selfish satisfaction or to show my power.
Guide me hour by hour that I may demonstrate by all I say and do that honesty produces happiness.
Reduce, I pray, the meanness in me. And when I am out of sorts, help me, O Lord, to hold my tongue.
May I ever be mindful that my children are children and I should not expect of them the judgment of adults.
Let me not rob them of the opportunity to wait on themselves and to make decisions.
Bless me with the bigness to grant them all their reasonable requests, and the courage to deny them privileges I know will do them harm.
Make me fair and just and kind. And fit me, Oh Lord, to be loved and respected and imitated by my children. Amen.
—Abigail Van Buren, newspaper columnist

Dreams Can Come True

Have you ever had a dream that you thought would be too good to come true? I did! … I wanted to have a wedding. You know, the kind where you get all prettied up, beautiful dress, friends and family, dancing, etc… I’m here to testify that dreams can come true! If you really want something, with a little perseverance, faith, and hope, it can happen!

Ken and I married on July 5th 2002, I was 7 months pregnant with our 3rd child and at that time having a wedding like the one I dreamed of, well, seemed like just a dream.

In early 2009 I realized that we would be celebrating our 7th anniversary that year, wouldn’t that be a GREAT time to have that wedding I always wanted to have?! Sure we have 6 kids now, none of my personal family is near enough to come, it’ll take a LOT of work to make it happen, but then again, why not?! Ken and I put our heads together and started planning… Amazingly enough, all the pieces fell into place.

We had an awesome renewal wedding on July 7th (celebrating our 7 years together on the 7th day of the 7th month… how more fancy can you get :) )… Everything was perfect and we had a wonderful day. So many of our friends and family came, even my Mom was able to fly over from the Philippines.

That is a day I will always remember and refer back to whenever I need to remember that “All things are possible to them that believe!” (Mark 9:23)

Another special thing that happened that day is that it was the very first time that Ken’s Mom had all her 14 kids together at one time… pretty amazing, no?!

Here are links to our renewal wedding … enjoy!

Nine Years Ago…

Nine years ago Ken and I got married in Uganda. It was a special day. It wasn’t anything fancy or grand… just special because we vowed to be together for better, for worse, in sickness, in health, till death do us part.

We told each other that one day we would have the big ‘shebang’ wedding that almost every girl dreams about having… but this time it will just be simple, Ken, myself and two witnesses.

Two years before our marriage I was a single mom with my 3 year old, Cedrick. I was living in Uganda at the time helping my brother and his wife with their then 7 children (they now have 11!) and also helping them with their missionary projects.

Ken arrived in Uganda and I was thrilled because I always had a ‘thing’ for Japanese guys so was anxious to meet him. I didn’t think he’d notice me since there was an age difference and also I was a single mom… but the attraction was there and it grew and grew….

About a year after that we had our first daughter together, Rubina, born January 10, 2001. Our love continued to grow stronger day by day. By 2002 I was pregnant again and then we thought, “what are we waiting for…. let’s make our vows!” so… we did! On July 5th, 2002 we got married…. yes, a day to be remembered… I love you my love!

A Pleasant Surprise

Today I got a pleasant surprise. I was working a little on my blog and making it a little more ‘my style’ (do you like it?) and noticed that I had a couple of comments on my “Oh… How They Grow!” post. I’m not really used to getting comments so was surprised about that already, but what surprised me the most is getting a comment from someone I don’t know.

Another mom named Jayne Jewell took the time to comment on my post. I went to her website to get to know this new person who took an interest in me. The thing that struck me the most about her is not only her positiveness but the way she wants to help other moms by inspiring women to live, love, thrive. I loved that immediately from going to her site.

Digging deeper I came to find out that she went to Anthony Robbins seminar as a 12 year old and has since been coaching others to set meaningful goals, move through the obstacles and get results.

I went to Anthony Robbins “Unleash the Power Within” seminar (UPW) and in one word I’ll describe it as AWESOME! It changed me in so many ways and change my husband too. We sent our 12 year old also and our lives will never be the same again. I strongly recommend anyone who can to attend and be ready to change.

Live with passion! Enjoy everything the Lord has given you and blessed you with! Live! Love! Thrive!

Oh… How They Grow!

Looking at each of my kids I realize how fast they grow. I want to enjoy each moment I have with them more because, before I know it, they’ll be all growed up!

Cedrick is now 13  and already taller than me (that’s not hard to beat, LOL!). He’s such a dependable lad. I’m so proud of him. He’s been attending Japanese school now for 1 1/2 years. He went in not knowing a word and now speaks fluently – wow! I can trust him to look after the younger ones anytime and he’s so willing to help. He takes out the trash regularly for me every morning. On Saturdays he goes to help out at our local bakers shop. He loves learning how to bake and prepare all the different ‘goodies’ that they serve out in that shop. He’s becoming a fine young man to be proud of.

Rubina is now 10. Such a big girl. I love her creativity and the way she’ll always think of another way to do things. She thinks out-of-the-box, just like her daddy. She has an amazing love for books. Just can’t have enough around to keep her happy. When she’s in ‘book world’ she doesn’t hear or see anything else around her – so cute! She’s always so full of ideas… her favorite line is “don’t worry Mom” – that’s when I start to worry… LOL! When she’s done with her ‘creations’ I’m amazed at how she thought of it (and I do my best not to notice the mess that was caused). I love my big girl :)

Makoto, well, he’s now 8 years old. He still loves to cuddle, as he always has, and cannot go to sleep under any means unless he gets his goodnight kiss. He still has his cute chubby cheeks and his winning eyes. He too is learning so much in school and speaks amazingly well in Japanese. He LOVES Wii, a little too much – oh my! He’s got such a good heart. I know he’ll be a real heart winner with the girls.

Suzanna, my dear 7 year old. I took her on a bike ride today, just her and I. I was so happy to see her ride so well and be brave when she fell and scrapped her leg. Spending time with just her was special as that hardly happens. I guess that’s the trouble with being in the middle. She always has so much to say. Her favorite is to end her sentences with “right Mom?” as if she needs to know that she’s heard and that I agree with what she said. She’s so meticulous and tidy. If I don’t remind her to change her clothes she could wear them all week and they’d still look as clean as when she put them on. She loves to help around the house – loves it! She’s so faithful too with the little details. I love you Suzy!

Kenji is already 5 and will be going to school next year! He’s so excited and can hardly wait… (me neither :P ) He’s so full of energy and whats to do stuff, I’m sure he’ll be so happy to join in all the school activities. He’s become Rubina’s little shadow. When the two of them get together, they’re inseparable. They come up with the most creative ideas and get along so well. He’s learning to read and is making so much progress, I’m so proud of him. There’s just something about Kenji’s smile… when he smiles, you just can’t help but get cheered up! I pray he makes many happy with his winning smile. :)

Alina, last, but definitely not least and now 3. She’s our self proclaimed ‘queen’! I always heard of little girls wanting to be princesses, but not her, she always just wants to be queen. She LOVES to draw, will draw on any piece of paper she can find. Her favorite thing to draw is a drawing of herself with a big ‘A’ on her dress and a crown in her hair :) . Such a cutie she is. She still sleeps in our bed, yes, I know… she is getting big, what to do. I’m hoping that on her 4th birthday she’ll finally agree to sleeping in the girls’ room. We’re planning on getting her a ‘big girl’ bed (fingers crossed). Now that she’s 3 she’s asking so many questions and is so curious about life. He

My! What wonderful kids I have. I am SO blessed! Jesus, thank You for these treasures You’ve trusted me with. I pray I can be a good mother and ‘train them in the way they should go so that when they’re old they will not depart from it’. It’s a big job being a mother…